Getting rid of your mental clutter is mission-critical to keeping a clear head and an open mind.
Norm LeMay and Steven Kaufman
If you want to read about all the basics of garbage like routes, landfills and trucks, this is the article for you, because we鈥檙e going to cover all of that and more鈥攂ut from a totally different perspective.
You see, when we hear the word garbage, most of us think about the physical kind鈥攚hat gets tossed into the can, dragged to the curb and hauled away to the landfill. However, there鈥檚 another kind of garbage that can cause just as much trouble if you don鈥檛 manage it well. We鈥檙e talking about mental trash.
If you step back and look at it, mental garbage affects your entire life, from the way you make business decisions to how happy you are. It鈥檚 not a topic most people talk about鈥攂ut neither is garbage. Yet, trash collection is indispensible to society. Imagine what things would be like if no one picked up the garbage anymore. In the same way, getting rid of your mental clutter is mission-critical to keeping a clear head and an open mind.
So why call it mental trash? You already know about garbage. You鈥檝e been dealing with it your whole life. Though it might sound strange, the skills you use to get rid of physical garbage are the exact same skills you can use to get rid of the trash in your head. That makes you a garbageman. Sure, you may not drive a truck from house to house, but you already know about trash and how to manage it. What if you took those skills and really put them to use for you, clearing out the junk in your head that you don鈥檛 need anymore? What would change for you? What would open up if all of that old stuff were no longer blocking your way?
Where Does Mental Trash Come From?
We all start collecting mental garbage from the time we’re little kids. We got in a fight or someone called us a name and our mind made up Thoughts, Beliefs, and Opinions about what happened鈥攚hat we call TBOs. Here’s the problem: most of us were never taught how to get rid of these. Over 聽time, these TBOs dictate how much risk we鈥檒l take, how much love we鈥檒l let in, or the kind of job we think we deserve. That鈥檚 where it goes sideways.
If we told you that you had to redo all of your routes using 20-year old maps, or put in a new accounting system using software from 2002, you鈥檇 tell us we were nuts. All that information is outdated. Well, if the decisions you鈥檙e making now are based on TBOs you formed 20, 30 or 40 years ago, isn鈥檛 that the same thing? The problem is that we鈥檙e not taught to sift through the contents of our head and ask ourselves, 鈥淎m I operating on old data?鈥� So we go on our merry way, making decisions and dealing with people without realizing that there may be garbage in the middle of all of those interactions.
Time is one of the key culprits that create mental trash. We don鈥檛 get picked last for a third grade recess activity, so we make up a TBO like I鈥檓 no good in sports. Then, years pass by and we don鈥檛 try out for the high school swim team. As an adult, we go to the gym but we never attend a class. Then, a friend asks us to do a 5K run or join the company softball team and our knee-jerk reaction is to say, 鈥淣o thanks鈥� even though the event sounds like a lot of fun. We reject it without even questioning where the reaction comes from. It鈥檚 old trash, and you can learn how to get rid of it. Let鈥檚 take a look at how.
Steps 1 鈥� 3: The Trash Tossing Cycle
We can hear it now. Not another list! Not another set of things to do every day! Well, don鈥檛 cringe because the eight steps to clearing your head are based on something you already know how to do: take out the trash.
Let鈥檚 say you鈥檙e deciding whether you want to keep something or toss it. If you had to boil it down, what鈥檚 the one piece of criteria that you use to make that decision?聽 We think that鈥檚 value. If it has value, you鈥檒l keep it. If it doesn鈥檛, it鈥檚 in the can. That鈥檚 why the first step of tossing your mental trash is learning how to work with value. If you examined the TBOs floating around your mind and asked yourself, 鈥淒oes this have any value to me?鈥� you would be surprised how often the answer comes back, 鈥淣o.鈥�
When a hauler dumps your can and you look inside afterwards, what鈥檚 in there? A whole lot of nothing, right? That鈥檚 called emptiness, and it鈥檚 exactly what happens in your mind when you toss out an old TBO. What鈥檚 left in its place is emptiness; a little bit of mental breathing room. Now, instead of telling yourself you鈥檙e bad at sports, you have the space to create an entirely new opinion about yourself鈥攐ne that鈥檚 a lot more up-to-date about what you鈥檙e actually capable of accomplishing. That鈥檚 the second step: keeping your can empty.
The third step is to create a route. Break your life into segments like work or family or hobby and ask yourself, 鈥淲hat do I really want for myself in this area?鈥� You turn those answers into goals, and any TBO that doesn鈥檛 line up with those goals is garbage that should be tossed into your personal landfill.
These three steps act like a cycle. Every time an old TBO trips you up, you ask yourself if it has any value. If it doesn鈥檛, you toss it and hold open the emptiness you just made until you create a route for that area of your life. Then, you fill up the emptiness with new TBOs that help you finish your route and hit your goals.
The Remaining Steps: Caution Signs Along the Road
When we get behind the wheel, we can all use a little help. There are bumps, hairpin turns and sudden drop-offs that can really throw us off. That鈥檚 what road signs do. They warn us about the dangers that can affect our driving. Mental trash is no different. Your ability to toss garbage out of your head can be affected by some internal road conditions. Here are a few of the most common.
The first is your ego, the part of your mind that loves to hold onto trash. Ego hates change. It thrives in the comfort zone鈥攖he boundary that defines what it knows and what it doesn鈥檛. Whenever it can, it鈥檒l slip into the driver鈥檚 seat and work like crazy to have you hold on to your old, outdated TBOs. Learning to park your ego is a big step towards dumping your mental trash.
Most of us don鈥檛 go chasing after the garbage truck in our slippers, shouting, 鈥淣o! Wait! I didn鈥檛 mean to get rid of that banana peel!鈥� We dump and we鈥檙e done. Mental garbage doesn鈥檛 work like that. A song or a smell or a snippet of conversation that you overhear triggers something in your mind and the next thing you know, a TBO you threw away works its way out of your landfill and you鈥檙e right back in the dumps again. It may take you several trips to the can before you can get that trash out of your life.
Toxic waste can also be a problem. Whether it鈥檚 low-level waste like credit card debt or high-level like addiction or abuse, we all run into toxic situations and hazardous relationships. Here鈥檚 the great news. Your garbageman skills can help you manage it, whether you鈥檙e cleaning up the mess yourself or you鈥檙e calling in the professionals to do it for your. Learning to spot toxic waste in your life and having a plan to get rid of it is the best way to avoid being contaminated by this nasty kind of garbage.
Sometimes, there鈥檚 an issue that gets stuck in your mind like a nail in a tire. You get so caught up in what鈥檚 going on that your mind can鈥檛 figure out what has value and what doesn鈥檛, so it starts hoarding all the TBOs around that issue. If you鈥檝e ever seen a TV show about hoarding, you know that those houses are so full, you can鈥檛 get a stick of gum inside. Well, that鈥檚 what your mind is like when you鈥檙e hoarding. To control it, you first acknowledge that it鈥檚 happening, then you isolate the TBOs that you鈥檙e clinging to and you get rid of them. When you start cleaning out your mind like that, you won鈥檛 believe how much mental breathing room you free up for yourself.
The last caution sign is taking care of your truck鈥攖he one with two legs, not four tires! It鈥檚 a lot harder to get through your route when you鈥檙e driving a hundred miles and hour and screeching around corners with nuts and bolts flying everywhere. Do the same thing garbage companies do: take great care of your truck. Eat well. Take a break every once in a while. Don鈥檛 go to bed mad. Remember: you can鈥檛 toss your trash if your truck is lousy condition. Maintain it and you鈥檒l maximize the amount of time you鈥檙e on the road and traveling your route.
Here鈥檚 a brief summary of the eight steps to getting rid of your mental trash:
Step 1: Find the Value and Toss the Trash
Step 2: Keep Your Can Empty
Step 3: Create Your Route
Step 4: Park Your Ego
Step 5: Leave It in the Landfill
Step 6: Get Away From Toxic Waste
Step 7: Stop Hoarding
Step 8: Take Care of Your Truck
Think Like a Garbageman
A garbageman doesn鈥檛 go out and pick up any old can that he sees. He follows his route, does an audit, makes improvements and runs the route again鈥攐nly this time, better than before.
What pushes that driver to improve his performance is the fundamental concept of change: thinking as if you鈥檝e already reached your goal鈥攅ven if you haven鈥檛 done that yet. If the garbageman, at the beginning of his route, believes with every fiber of his body that he鈥檚 going to finish on time and get every can, is he going to waste time on side trips? Is he going to take extra long breaks or not really care what he鈥檚 doing? Of course not! He鈥檚 going to get that route done. He鈥檚 efficient, he鈥檚 driven, and he鈥檚 got energy and focus. When problems come up鈥攁nd they always do鈥攈e handles them and keeps moving forward.
Managing mental garbage works exactly the same way. Once you start thinking as if you鈥檝e already accomplished your goal鈥攅arning enough money for that new car or getting a promotion鈥攜our belief system seizes on that goal and starts flooding your subconscious with a simple, consistent message: 鈥淚 am that person!鈥� When you do that, everything starts to shift around that goal. Pretty soon, you start acting like the person who鈥檚 already achieved it鈥攅ven if you haven鈥檛 yet.
Think about the last time you really wanted something. Nothing got in your way, did it? If a negative TBO like 鈥淵ou can鈥檛 do this鈥� popped into your head, did it stop you? Heck no! You blew right past it! Then, when you reached your goal, you probably said to yourself, 鈥淲ow. That was a lot easier than I thought.鈥� When it鈥檚 that important to you, you鈥檙e not going to let a pile of old, outdated garbage stand in your way. You鈥檙e going to throw it out and keep charging forward. That鈥檚 what it means to think like a garbageman.
The Challenges
When you first start dumping your mental trash, you鈥檙e going to run into some common challenges. It鈥檚 hard to tune into the thoughts running through your mind. You have habits that make you hold onto your old trash. Dumping mental garbage it tougher than you thought, or you have unrealistic expectations of how fast life will change, or you find the whole process a little monotonous.
Don鈥檛 worry about it! Every one of these challenges has an answer. You can learn how to break old habits or manage your expectations by enlisting the help of your Inner Garbageman鈩⑩�攖hat little voice inside of your head that always steers you in the right direction. When you let your Inner Garbageman take the wheel, life gets so much easier. The chaos and the drama start to disappear and you see new possibilities that the old garbage blocked out.
Imagine if all the clutter in your head were gone. What could you accomplish? What amazing things could you do? Now is the time to find out! Start throwing out your mental trash and see what starts to open up for you.
Bringing It 国产麻豆
Pretend you have a garage that鈥檚 an absolute mess. There鈥檚 stuff everywhere in it. One morning, you walk out there, turn on the light, and take a long, hard look around. That鈥檚 when you realize that the garage could be so much more than what it is. You can turn it into a workshop or a home gym or a space where you can actually park both cars inside. Once you see that vision of what that garage could become, your mind is going to move in one of two ways.
In one instance, you鈥檙e going to get caught up in all the garbage: all the work it will take to clean the place out, whether you can find the time, and so on. In the other instance, you鈥檒l be so fired up by your vision that the garbage won鈥檛 even be a factor. Guess which way of thinking will transform that garage?
When your vision is more important than your trash, you become virtually unstoppable, no matter what you鈥檙e up to. And that鈥檚 the choice! Are you going to clear the garbage out of the way and focus on the end point that says, 鈥淭his is where I want to be,鈥� or are you going to let the garbage win?No one says you have to hold on to your old TBOs. So throw them out, just like you would an old light bulb or a broken mug. Then, go on and live an extraordinary life!
Norm LeMay and Steven Kaufman are co-authors of the book, The Garbageman鈥檚 Guide鈩� to Life: How to Get Out of the Dumps. For more information on dumping your mental trash and a free three-part video course expanding on this article, visit www.TheGarbagemansGuide.com.